Copyright (c) 2009 Audrey Burton

When you first start a business, you have a million marketing ideas! Most of them are great – brilliant even – but exactly how do you do them, and which ones do you do first?

The best marketing tool you will ever use is knowing your target market. You may have heard that target marketing is important, but probably didn’t fully understand why. Even if you understand the concept, you may feel like you are turning your back on a lot of potential revenue by using target marketing.

Most people feel this way in the beginning; it is very normal. It does feel like that in the beginning. However, once you communicate your target to your business community and use it in all of your marketing, including your website, for awhile, you will be amazed at how efficient your business building becomes!

Your target market is the one segment of the entire marketplace who is your best potential client. Think of your target as an individual person. What does she do for a living? What are his hobbies? Where do they gather?

When you are able to clearly describe your target to people they are much more likely to send you referrals. If you are vague, then it is difficult for your network of acquaintances, friends and family to identify a good prospect for you. When you are clear, they can easily recognize a good referral for you and may even be on the lookout for you. People really want to send referrals to you – make it easy for them to do so!

Sometimes identifying a target is easy because of your niche, or area of expertise. For example, if you used to be a lawyer, and now you coach lawyers who are over-worked and burned out, your target is obviously lawyers. Find out where lawyers gather at alumni meetings or networking groups (or online) and start building relationships.

You would also want to build relationships with other business owners who target lawyers so you can create strategic alliances and send referrals to each other.

All of that would be impossible to imagine or execute if you did not have a clear target market.

Often it is not so obvious or easy. For example, if you sell skincare products with a network marketing company, you truly can benefit every human being with one product or another, right? Picking one narrow target is extremely difficult! So, why should you?

If you do not select a target, all of your marketing efforts become generic as you try to appeal to everyone and nobody connects with your message or your product. On the other hand, if you aim your words and your look at a targeted group, they are much more likely to feel an emotional connection with you and your products.

The emotional connection keeps the prospect listening and acting. If there is no connection they forget about you instantly – you have not made an impression on them and have made yourself forgettable. They stop listening, click off your website and don’t refer.

Here are some examples of good, viable target markets:

1. Skincare Consultant marketing to parents of teens with acne problems2. Wedding Planner marketing to Armenian brides in Glendale, CA3. Real Estate Agent marketing downgrades to seniors in an older, established neighborhood4. Life Coach marketing to men going through an unwanted divorce

This is sometimes more of a process than a one-time decision. The viability is important. If they have no mo’ney to spend or there are too few of them, you will never make enough. You may not find out right away that the target you selected is not viable. There is an element of trial and error to this process.

One more thing – you can only have one target, unless you have enough in your marketing budget to pay for 2 websites, 2 sets of printed marketing materials and 2 sets of networking groups. If you try to market to more than one target, you cripple your referral opportunities.

Of course you have choices! You can keep doing what you are doing and keep getting the same results, or you can decide on a target market, communicate it in every possible way and become a well-oiled machine. Your efficiency will go through the roof, making it easier to write marketing copy, including your 30 second intro, create strategic alliances and receive referrals.

Good luck!

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Marriage is a pure and healthy union between two partners in a couple. However the compatibility both physically and mentally is a requirement in all marriage or it could lead to arguments and eventually one partner resorting to divorce and several dollars spent on Divorce Lawyer. Divorce Attorney would handle all your legal problems in separation but why would you prefer it as it involves great disrespect in the community and problems later on. Why not fix the problems you face there and then and bury the hatchet before it becomes something big and uncontrollable.

Often, we find marriages in which one partner is quite dominating over the other and do not listen and understand especially when they are angry. Men usually face such egoistical problems. In such cases, the women should act calmly and wisely so as to save their relationship. Do not react when they shout at you unnecessarily especially after they return from office exhausted. It could complicate matters much worse than you can possibly imagine. Treat them politely as they might be having some trouble with the boss that they could not explain to you. Once they calm down, ask them their problems.

Women particularly lose control when they find their husbands coming late home from office and find something fishy in the whole situation. Housewives do not often understand the busy environments, traffic jams and office workloads these days and this being the reason for the lateness and punctuality problems. They get very distressed and take it out on the men and often give threats of separation. The men have to be the responsible ones this time as the women especially of newlywed couples spend most of their time at home with not much to do and no one to talk to. They deprive of social interactions and want to spend time with their husbands a much as possible. Even if they speak of separation, they do not actually mean it. Men have to explain to them the problems and workload peacefully.

When there is a new marriage, especially the arranged one, the partners do not often feel at ease with each others. They shy away from talking to each other and could not establish a loving and physical relationship that is the actual foundation of any marriage. If this becomes the case, then both the partners have to make efforts to start a friendship which will lead to a lovely relationship. Men could bring flowers and gifts of the kinds that usually attract women like roses, perfume, chocolates etc. Women could play their part by making the whole home clean and serving tasty dishes for them. Both should talk to the friends of the other partner so that they get to know their tastes in dishes and gifts and other likes and dislikes. Similarly sharing each other’s event of the day and news during meal times is also good for starting a friendship.

Marriage is a very important decision in one’s life and it should be taken with great care and thought. If you marry someone, think about all the responsibilities and try to bear the problems later on.

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Stewart Wrighter has worked with an Atlanta divorce lawyer. His daughter had an opportunity to work with an Atlanta divorce attorney as a legal intern during the summer.

Different states do not have the same manner in which vital public information is treated. Some of them are lenient while the rest are restrictive. Basically, that is because they don’t have the same version of the Freedom of Information Act. But with the use of the Internet, it is now a breeze to find Vermont Arrest Records, as well as other files including court, divorce, and driving records, marriage licenses and certificates, sex offenders, and others. People hold several purposes in searching for this document. One of those reasons is to simply satisfy one’s curiosity. You may just want to know what the government has stored about you. Searching for it may also show you some incorrect information that must be altered. Even various employers can make use of this information to screen job applicants and current employees.The truth is criminal activities are now getting rampant in the society. The number of criminals is relatively increasing. Plus take note, some of those who are in prison are no longer first-timers. Yes, they’ve been to the same crime at some point of time. That is why it is very important to safeguard your own self by being careful in all things, especially in dealing with unfamiliar people.Traffic, misdemeanour, and felony are the three types of criminal offenses. But the worst among them is the last one. Information about felonies is often shown in several crime alerts or notices. The individual’s first and last name, birth date, the type of crime that was made and when it was done are the most common details that you can gather from this account.Fortunately, this information can now be retrieved in many ways. One way to do it is by paying a visit to those governmental offices or stations. However, although it offers to produce a report that is most detailed and up-to-date, its long waiting time is often undesirable. The second option is by mail, but this, too, is time-consuming. The third option, which is the best among the three, is by searching through the Internet.Now, searching for Criminal Records Free To Public is already easier and more convenient because of the Internet. Unlike back in the old days, the desired information can now be acquired in no time. The only thing that you must do is to select the best service provider that offers one-time payment only, 24/7 support, money-back guarantee, and the best type of result that you desire.

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Many couples have been merrily breezing along then, IT happened. There was not enough money to meet all the monthly obligations. Living in the suburbs, a two-paycheck family with 2 children with soccer, little league baseball, golf and club memberships, spas all sandwiched and woven into the tapestry of the McDonald family. Steve and Karen had considered themselves, being well educated and well read, above the fray of the struggles of the other “Jones”. There was no reward unworthy of their attention.

Suddenly the kitchen table, with a stack of unpaid bills, became the center of their universe. Steve and Karen came to a quick conclusion, that they now had a severe financial problem. Denial was no longer an option. Previously, Steve and Karen had noted in the church bulletin announcing an ongoing class in credit counseling. Churches and other non-profits became aware of the degree of pain and deep divisiveness that a credit challenged family will undergo. Many a credit crisis ended in divorce and even a loss of their home and much of their self-respect. It has been found anyone going through this credit-challenged period may suffer mental depression, which can magnify health issues. Masking with alcohol abuse or worse just prolongs the inevitable. This ongoing program had some success with several couples. Testimonials touted the change in enrollees credit situations over time. Early on it was noted that a blue print could be provided and worked out, but the parties have to repair their credit themselves. It was a Do-It-Yourself Credit Repair program. The helping hand was right at the end of the elbows of each couple.

The meetings turned out to be on a Monday evening. Because this was a family based program focused on getting every member of the family on board; the children were in attendance with childcare provided on site. Depending on the ages of the children, there was a segment allocated to exactly what was going on with the whole family involved with individual family break out sessions. Later on, it would make for short family discussions of why this or that activity or entertainment needed to be changed or cut back. At this break out session, a family consensus was necessary on a course of action to proceed to the next step. Each enrolled couple needed to pay for a credit report from each of the three main credit bureaus. This generally ran – per credit reporting agency or a little over . You can get a free credit report from the bureaus, but it does not have the credit scores, which will serve as a ready benchmark for progress in the program. The first order of business was to deal with the shame and embarrassment of a couple finding themselves in this situation. With ready credit being offered with each delivery of mail, all you have to do is sign your name and you got some plastic money. Like drugs, “Just Say No”.

With the credit reports in hand and each outstanding bill with account numbers and contact phone numbers carefully catorgized on a summary sheet together with a priority selection of secured debt and unsecured debt the process began. Secured debt would be a house payment, car, etc. If one does not pay these secured debts they foreclose on the house or repossess the car. Unsecured debt is the credit cards. Armed with income, tax with holding, history of income tax refunds and such a budget was roughed out for each family. At this point, decisions on the order of importance of the debts would be hashed out and decided. The key to a proper work out is to start the communication process with creditors immediately and include them in your plan to rebuild your credit. The counselor went over their situation and a plan was developed and agreed to. For now, the McDonalds needed to focus on paying 100% of the secured debt. So the house and car payments (for now) would be paid on time and as agreed. The unsecured debt, such as all the credit cards, would need to be worked out with a reduced payment plan. The counselor shared that this would not be the first time that anyone had contacted them with a work out plan. In no case, should any work out plan with a credit card company be worked out that cannot be maintained. If nothing else, go for severely reduced payment plan or share that the alternative would be nothing. That has consequences, however.

There are really only three things that can be done in this situation. Increase income, reduce expenses, or do both. In this case, Steve got a part time job. Unnecessary expenses were eliminated. Both cars were upside down, meaning they owed more than they were worth. Nine months of over payments got the car loan below book value and they were sold. Two good used ones were bought. Deals on every credit card were worked out at lower payments. Every card except one was cut up. Club memberships were terminated-no contracts. Golf was in the park shagging balls and the kids kept the soccer and little league play going. In 18 months the McDonalds had cash flow help through credit repair.

Dale Rogerswww.brokencredit.com

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Dale Rogers is a thirty-year mortgage veteran and frequent contributor to the Broken Credit Blog The BCB is a free website created to assist the general public with information about credit repair and responsible mortgage lending.

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Let’s face it, your credit score is not as high as you would like it to be, and your credit history is not as white as the driven snow. Perhaps there is a reason for that. Years ago, you did not take the privilege of credit seriously enough and you have learned your lessons in the meantime. Or perhaps your credit history took a downward spiral due to unexpected circumstances which were out of your control, such as a job layoff, divorce, high medical bills, or something else.

Whatever the reason, there are very few people on the planet that have a squeaky clean credit history with the enviable credit score of 750 or higher.

But there are other reasons that ARE in your control that your credit score may not be as high as it should be. Multiple studies have shown that of the three separate credit reporting agencies that report your credit score, chances are better than excellent that there are errors in at least one of those credit reports on you, and perhaps all three of them.

The credit bureaus do not share information between themselves, since they operate independently as profitable companies. It is no skin off their nose if there are errors in your credit report, they could not care less. But that said, each of them has a legal obligation to find out the truth on a particular credit report item, IF you bring it to their attention that you believe the data is inaccurate or does not even belong to you. You are almost guaranteed to have such items on your credit reports, and the end result of this fact is that your credit score is being calculated lower than it really should be.

Given this fact, many people run out and try to find a credit repair company. For crying out loud, WHY? To get the errors corrected? You of course want to get the errors corrected, but be aware that there is nothing that a credit repair company can do that you cannot also do, at no cost. They would like you to believe differently, and if you really don’t have time in your schedule to hassle with writing some letters yourself to officially get this into the dispute queue of the credit bureaus, well then maybe you need to spend the money for them to do it for you. But if you have time to sit down and watch re-runs of Gilligan’s Island or Star Trek for the umpteenth time, I submit that you DO have the time to do this yourself instead of paying someone else to do it.

If you need a tree stump removed from your front yard or you need the shocks replaced in your car, I can understand where you would want to pay someone else to do that for you, because you very simply do not have the skill set to do it yourself. But surely you do have enough skills to throw together a few coherent sentences to dispute those errors yourself, don’t you? Especially when the only thing it is going to cost you would be a few postage stamps?

Put forth the effort to understand how to spot such items on your credit report and how to get free copies of your credit reports so you know what to dispute and the proper way to dispute it. You can raise your credit score by removing items that should not be included in that calculation, and you will be much better off for your time spent.

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Greetings,

You are more than likely reading this article becasue you and your spouse are wanting to get divorced. In my case it was more so that me and my wife had already split up and have’nt seen each other in many years. This is not to say that I wanted to see her.

I looked at many web sites on the Internet for divorce forms for the state of Texas. Just about every web site that shoed up on the first page of Google were web sites that wanted to charge me a fee just to download the divorce papers for Texas. This made me think. Why would I wanted to pay more than a few dollars for online divorce papers? If I were to do that, I would have just hired an attorney for my divorce.

Needless to say, I finally found some free divorce papers for Texas and used them to complete my divorce.

This got me motivated to help other people like myself who just wanted to get a simple uncontested divorce, and try to complete the forms and legal steps for divorce on my own without hiring an attorney.

I enjoy creating web sites and using all of my research knowlege I created http://www.mydivorceusa.com so that people can have easy access to online printable divorce papers.

I have worked very hard on this web site and have made sure that people get directed to the correct divorce forms.

In doing all of my research; I learned quite a bit about divorce and the laws that pertain to divorce in my state as well as many other states.

I was later approached by an online attorney finder service who wanted to offer my visitors the chance to speak with an attorney about getting divorced. People usually do this when they become confused.

I’m not going to lie. Completeing your own divorce is going to require you doing some leg work, spending some money and staying on top of the scheduled events for divorce court and the things the divorce court expects you to do that normally an attorney would do.

But most people, just like you who managed to make it to this article and read it to its end should be proficient enough to complete their divorce on their own without hiring a lawyer.

Please visit my website for more information on divorce, divorce forms and papers and the divorce laws in your state.

Sincerely,

William Tell

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Your Florida do-it-yourself divorce case may not proceed smoothly. If you have requested alimony or child support, you will need proof of your spouse’s income in order to win an award. So for example, if your spouse is not cooperating and has not filed a Financial Affidavit in the case, you may need to subpoena his or her financial information directly from banks and other companies.

In other situations, perhaps your spouse filed a Financial Affidavit that included items you have no information about, suspicious items or amounts, or items that you believe are not correct, you may want to subpoena records to learn more and to obtain evidence for your claims.

Most records are easily obtainable with a subpoena; however, before you can subpoena your spouse’s records, you must give notice that you plan to do so. Any information that you want to subpoena has to be relevant to the issues in your case. It also has to be evidence itself or the information you want has to be calculated to lead to evidence for your case.

There is more involved than just sending the Notice of Non-Party Production (Form 12.931(a)) though. You will have to complete the subpoena for the records and send a copy of the subpoena along with the Notice of Non-Party Production. To complete the subpoena, you will have to know the location where you want the records delivered, the company that has the records and its address, and a list of the documents you want to see.

Because a Notice of Non-Party Production (NNPP) is a request for records, you do not have to actually have a deposition. Subpoena the records and obtain a Records Custodian Affidavit to have admissible business records. When choosing a date and time for the subpoena, keep in mind that you will have to wait ten or 15 days, depending on how you delivered the NNPP, before you can serve the subpoena. Most companies require approximately two weeks to gather copy and send documents. Therefore, the date you choose for the “production date” should be five to six weeks away at minimum.

Non-lawyers must have the Clerk’s office “issue” or sign the subpoena. You will send a copy of the NNPP, with the subpoena attached, to the other side. If you mail the NNPP to the other side, you must wait 15 days to see if there is an objection to your request. If you hand deliver the NNPP or send it by fax, you must wait 10 days.

You will send the original NNPP with a copy of the subpoena to the Clerk’s office for filing. Keep the original subpoena to serve. If you receive an Objection during the waiting period, you will have to set a deposition in order to obtain the records.

If you do not receive an Objection, the next step is to serve the subpoena. You can use the sheriff’s office or a process server/investigator to serve a subpoena. (The rule is broader than for serving a petition or counter-petition, which both require a sheriff or certified process server). The person serving the subpoena will complete an affidavit of return of service. If you use the sheriff’s office, they will file the original and send you a copy of it. If you are using someone else, check to be sure they will file the original. Sometimes they provide it to you and you must file their affidavit.

Don’t be surprised if you receive a call from someone at the company from which you have requested records. They may request more time, need additional information or want you to pre-pay for the copies before they send you the records. Remember, if you want to get information from third parties, use the Notice of Non-Party Production and follow the court procedures in your Florida divorce case.

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Practicing Florida family law attorney Pamela S. Wynn has represented divorcing spouses throughout the State of Florida for more than 24 years. Pamela is President of Legal Education Center of Florida, Inc., sponsor of http://diydivorcefl.com/ a free resource for those representing themselves in Florida divorce cases.

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Some billionaire couples find it is not necessary to hire an advokat when they divorce, and real estate billionaires Tim and Edra Blixseth have decided to do things their own way. The couple is worth an estimated two billion dollars, and are not using accountants or advokater to handle their friendly divorce. Together and married for twenty five years, the couple have split amicably, and reached most of the property settlement in one afternoon while they shared a bottle of wine. Each made a personal list of property that they wanted to keep, and then they did some old fashioned horse swapping, with each giving a little and getting almost everything they wanted, with no large advokat or accounting costs involved. He aim of the couple is to keep their dignity even though divorcing, and neither wants to be splashed across newspapers all over the world in the latest divorce scandal. The split is so friendly that rather than divide the three jets owned by the couple, they have agreed to share them. This is a big step forward in a world where sharing the same restaurant dining room for some divorced couples is too much for some relations.

If couples can reasonably discuss a divorce, and come to terms on property and asset divisions, then a divorce advokat may not be necessary, but if you do not have one make sure you get everything in writing and signed by your significant other. Divorces have a way of bringing out the worst in many people, and most divorces are not as friendly as the one between Tim and Edra Blixseth. A divorce advokat can help protect your assets and rights, and should be at least consulted, especially when large amounts of money or property are at stake or there are children involved. In a world that sometimes seems like it has gone crazy from greed, it is really an eye opener to see a couple with so much at stake each to cooperate and do what is best for the both of them. Too many times divorcing couples, especially if they are rich or powerful, turn the divorce into a battle of wills that no one wins, and they lose all sense of dignity and decorum in the process. Kudos to the Blixseth couple for showing the rest of the world how to stay friendly in the middle of a divorce after long years of marriage, and with both parties agreeing not to get a divorce advokat.

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Many children feel that they are the ones at fault when their parents break up. Although this may seem illogical to adults, children can find associations in the most incongruous of things. As often attested by revelations during therapy, children often feel that they could have done something to prevent the break-up in the family. There are those “what ifs” and “could have beens.” If they were good and obedient children, would they have prevented the split? If they did not get into trouble in school, would their parents stay together?

One of the crucial moments that parents should take note of and prepare themselves is the way that they will break the news to their children. Although explaining it properly will not necessarily lessen the pain of knowing that their parents will be splitting up but at least a proper explanation will help prevent misunderstandings especially in what caused the break up in the first place.

Remember that young children are very impressionable. Everything that you do, whether you want them to see or not, can mean something. It is important that you tell them what’s going on to avoid misrepresentations.

Below are some tips on how to break the news of the divorce to your kids.

Never make them feel that they have to choose.

Divorce is a traumatic experience as it is without asking the children to choose sides. This will put them right in the middle of marital trouble. This is not fair because the kids are not really part of the problems that you and your partner are having. Pressuring them to judge who is right and wrong can worsen the trauma that they will be experiencing.

Still, during custody battles, choosing sides cannot be avoided. Although in some cases, especially if the children are a bit older, they are asked to choose which parents they would rather live with.

Never badmouth your partner

Remember that whatever happens, your partner is still a part of their lives, someone who they need to respect and love. Whatever troubles that you have in your relationship should not affect the children in any way. As long as your partner is doing his best to provide for the kids and is a good father, there is no need for them to know what a rotten person he can be sometimes.

Explain clearly.

Although your children will not necessarily understand completely what is going on, there is no need to create fantastical explanations. Just tell them the truth, that you are going to start living apart and they may have to live with each of you separately or live with one parent for the rest of their lives.

Consider their feelings and try to talk to them about it Divorce can be painful for the couple as they are the ones directly involved but you must remember that kids are very vulnerable and they are not as resilient as adults.

It is not enough that you tell them what’s going on. You also have to ask them what their feelings are about what happened. This way, you are able to address their fears and insecurities right then and there.

As mentioned before, kids often feel that it is their fault that their parents are breaking up. You have to reassure them that this is not true and they were not in any way at fault.

Tell them that it’s ok for them to talk to you about it.

Children will have questions about what happened. They might not be able to verbalize it just yet but they will eventually reveal what bothers them about the situation. Encourage them to come and talk to you if they have additional questions. Tell them that it’s ok for them to tell you how they feel and they will be very much welcome to ask you anything they want. Keeping the communications line open will help ease the tension and clear up a lot of potential sources of misunderstandings.

A legal separation is the best thing to do in the last stages of couples not getting along.  It can be a way of taking a break and finding out what each party wants.  There is no reason to rush into getting divorce for some people and it is a decision that has to be well thought out just as the marriage should have been.  

Sometimes when people are on a legal separation, they will try and work things out.  However, there are some cases, where it will not work and the parties’ involved want to get a divorce.  One year after the legal separation is granted, one of the parties can petition to convert the separation to a divorce.  They can do this without further hearings and the other party cannot prevent it from happening.  People will sometimes prefer the separation instead of a divorce because of their religious beliefs or for insurance purposes.

If the party then decides to get a divorce, it will terminate their marriage.  In order to do that, parties involved will go to court and decide how to handle questions of the children and how to divide their marital property.  Each party is going to be responsible for one half of the marital debts.  

Marital property is anything that the couple bought while they were married.  It does not matter whose name the property is in or who actually purchased it.  Bank accounts, pensions, and stocks are marital property even if they are held in one name only.  Property brought into the marriage is still marital depending on the length of the marriage and what type of property it is.  The court will be as fair as it can and sometimes the parties involved will make the right choices about being fair in the divorce.  

It is always a good thing when a couple can make the appropriate decisions about how things should be split up before actually going to court.  Both parties should have attorneys and this will help things progress along without having to worry about any legalities.  This is the best way to protect each party’s assets and to make sure that the proceedings are fair.  

From the reallocation of property and debt to child support to taxes to retirement planning, there are a slew of financial issues that are intertwined with most divorces. Chances are you and your spouse share a lot of assets, from furniture to stocks to pets! You might even have a sentimental attachment to some of them. Unless the two of you agree on how to divide all the property up, you might have to brush off on your bartering skills. Some parting couples even opt to sell all the property at once and divide the profits.

While that comfortable sofa and antique dresser might be in demand, the debt you two shared certainly won’t be. A joint credit report deserves a good look as you and your lawyer(s) determine what’s fair. As you distribute the debt, try to cap off whatever debt you currently have. Divorce is expensive and you want to deflate the financial burden as much as you can today. Again, more bartering may be in order here. Take on more debt in exchange for more assets, or vice versa. If you have an open mind and cooperate, you’ll likely come to a fair divorce settlement. It’s not unusual for a divorcing couple to split the debt  right down the middle.

Surprisingly, you’re going to have some new tax issues to think about too. If you have dependents, which person will get that tax exemption from now on? Many other tax exemptions and deductibles that you probably took for granted as a married couple will need to be reevaluated after a divorce.

Not to mention, child support and alimony! These issues are highly variable and personable but they are going to be big ones if you and your former spouse have children together.  

Men sometimes have great financial difficulties affording child support, but statistics show it’s newly single mothers that have the most money problems. This is especially evident when a woman must suddenly afford childcare or is swept into a new work environment; kids typically must adjust to a lower standard of living, just like their parents, after a divorce.

An entire family structure gets disrupted during a divorce and that has not only an effect on the personal relationships, but on the overall economic situation of all involved. And these financial issues are deep and complex and have enduring effects.

The best advice for you, the soon-to-be-divorced, is to remind yourself the financial turmoil is only temporary and it can be dealt with the most adequately if you can keep your cool and think practically. While it’s tempting, dividing up property and debt is probably not a time for vengeance or proving a point. The divorce will go quicker and more amicably if you try to stay as calm and rational as possible!

1. One party to a marriaqge, having been married for at least a year, decides for whatever reason – enough is enough.

2. He or she needs to be satisfied in his/her own head that the marriage has truly broken down and is irretrievable.

3. He then has to hang his hat on a reason for the breakdown. Has his/her spouse committed adultery? Has the other party’s behaviour been “unreasonable? Has the other party deserted us and stayed away for at least two years? Have the parties just separated for at least two years? Have both parties been separated for five years? If the answer to one or more opf these questions is “YES” then divorce may well be very possible.

4  Let me move on. These five fact situations need now to be clarified as foows:-

a. If adultery – i.e. sexual intercourse with another party has taken place and the parties of the marriage have not propery lioved together as husband and wife for more than six months after the date upon which the “innocent party” became aware, then you can proceed on the basis of that adultery;

b. Unreasonable behaviour is a question of fact and degree. In reality, it is terribly easy as most of us have been unreasonable at some stage. Drinking, jealousy, selfishness, voilence, gambling. These are just some qualities that can qualify. The more particular as to detail and timing the better. Very easy though. once again, the other party must not have continued to live together as husband and wife for a period of six months or more after the last instance of unreasonable behaviour relied upon;

c. Desertion is self explanatory but must have continued for at least two years before the Divorce Petition is issued;

d. Separation can be for 2 or 5 years. If for 2 years, the Divorce needs to be by consent, whereas after 5 years separation, it is possible to obtain a divorce even without the consent of your spouse.

These are therefore the five facts upon which either party can rely.

Once armed with the ground for a Divorce, get hold of a certified copy of the Marriage certificate. If you don’t have one, you can generally obtain one from the Registry Office in the area where you were married. Next you fill in a Divorce Petition. This is a simple statement setting out the grounds for the divorce and some other details as to your marriage. Where you live, where you last lived together, children, occupations etc.

In addition, if you have children, then it is probably you will aklso require a Statement as to the Arrangements for the child(ren.) Again, this is an easy form to complete with basic information as to accommodation, education, finances etc

Armed with thexe documenrs, you are ready to go – almost. The current fee to issue is £300 but in certain circumstances it can be waived – eg if you are in receipt of jobseeker’s allowance. You must then just complete a form with evidence of your benefit.

You hand in the documents at any county court (not just the one in your area.) The Court wil then issue it, i.e. stamp it, and then they will initially serve it (i.e. send it by ordinary class mail) to the other party. The other party recveives a stamped copy of that Petition together with the Statement regarding the chilld(ren) if appropriate together with an Acknowledgment of Service. This is really a Receipt and enables the other party to respond to the Court indicating whether he or she intends agreeing to the Divorce, agreeing but on his/her own grounds or refusing a Divorce i.e. defending it.

Tee fact is that almost no Divorces are truly defended nowadays. There may be a bit of gameplaying but in the end – that is all it is.

In the alternative, the other party may do nothing at all.

Let me now deal with al these options very quickly and easily.

If your spouse does not reply, you need to arrange for him/her to be personally served. You can arrange this or the Court will via the Court bailiff (at a current cost of £100). Once served personaly, there is no way out and if no reply is then forthcoming, you can proceed in default.

If the Acknowledgement says – I wish to Defend then you must await an Answer (the Defence in effect) and possibly the Cross Petition – if your spouse wants a Divorce but on their own ground.

If however,as will generally be the case, the Divorce is undefended, then you move on to the next stage – again very straightforward.

You need to get hold of the Acknowledgment of Service and an Affidavit in support of the Petition which is a set form. You complete this Affidavit (which is a statement by you which then needs to be witnessed by a solicitor or at Court by one of the staff. They wil help you with the form, supplying a copy and assisting you to complete it. Again, an easy form.

You then lodge with the Court the affidavit to which I have just referred, a form requesting a date of Decree, and the Acknowledgment of Service which is itself referred to in the Affidavit.

You have now applied for the decree Nisi (the first stage – which I will explain shortly.) A little waiting, and you should then hear from the Court that the Judge has looked at your Petition, is satisfied with what you have put and that you are entitled to the grant of the Decree Nisi. He will give you a “date of Hearing.” This is a formality. It WILL be granted on that date and there is no need for you to attend.

You will thereafter receive confirmation that the Decree Nisi was granted. The Decree Nisi is not, curiously, the end of the matter. You must wait six weweks and then apply for the Decree Absollute. It is at this point you are divorced and able to remarry. This two pronged Divorce issue is historical and supposedly gives an opportunity to anyone to object to the Divorce which to the best of my knowledge never happens!

You wil receive the Certificate as to Decree Absolute (for which however you need to apply.)

Incidentally, if the other party agrees to the Divorce but objects to paying the costs, the Judge upon considering your Petition will consider that matter as well.

The whole process should take no longer than six months unless it is seriously defended, requires no attendance at any Court Hearings and is a separate issue to financial matters. The Arrangements for any child willl however be taken into account at the same time and the Judge must be satisfied with those arrangements before granting the Divorce.

Though I will deal with financial mattersw in a separate article, I must make clear than only in very rarew circumstances will the reasons for trhe Divorce have any bearing upon the financial settlement between the parties.

I hope this explains the basics of divorce procedure but if you need any more assistance you are free to contact me at milton@miltonfirman.co.uk

MILTON FIRMAN LLB

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